So often we sabotage our relationships or getting our needs met because we don’t have the skills to communicate in a way that can be heard by others. For some, the fear of being vulnerable or “needy” keeps them from being authentic in their relationships, or from honestly asking for what they need. Others undermine their needs by communicating so strongly that others hear the “roar” but not the heart of the need. Sometimes it’s a matter of learning basic communication tools. For example, learning to be assertive rather than passive or passive-aggressive, enables you to ask for what you need while also preserving your relationships and the feelings of those around you.
A therapist can help you learn simple tools for communicating assertively and proactively that may have a significant impact on your quality of life and relationships.